For many of us, it can be challenging to ask for what we want.

Of course, I put myself in those people since I always felt anxious when I wanted to ask my boss for something, even for a less essential thing, such as a break, not to mention the important ones, such as a raise. But at some point, it is good to realize what we deserve, and we must finally change our attitude -I say that to hear it, too.

There is a way, though, to do it. I learned from my experience in some ways that I forced myself to apply, even though I did not want to, and of course, I still work on others.

The first impression always counts. When approaching your boss to ask for a break, your posture should show confidence. You can not go with your arms crossed and in a low voice - maybe even trembling - say "Sorry, could I ask you a favor…?" (that's me). You do not ask for a favor; you ask for what you are entitled to.

So, be honest, speak in a clear and loud voice. You need to know what you want and have the confidence that you will achieve it. Do it as if you have already done it.

Do not show hesitation.

If you are not sure about yourself, how will others be about you? Phrases like maybe, I was hoping, I don't think show a person who knows what he/she wants. It does not matter if you feel you need to leave, because all your colleagues are comfortable and you, who are the same or even more productive, do not have. Refer to now. I want, I'm ready, I need. If you let guilt drive you away, you are sabotaging your request.

Find the reason for your request.

It is essential when you ask for something to know why you ask for it. Was I okay with my obligations? I did my best; Was I efficient? If you are sure of the answers, then you can claim something more. When I first asked for a raise, I was sure I deserved it. And I made sure to emphasize that. It is not wrong to justify your request with data. We are not talking about apologies, of course. This pleading attitude does not help.

Be specific and clear.

And of course, be brief. Have the arguments worked in your mind? It will help you a lot if you write them down. If you start the theoretical analysis, probably everyone will stop watching you. Make sure you are to the point. Any trace of doubt, guilt, and hesitation will allow a vicious boss not to listen to you.

It is not wrong to ask.

How will others know what you need if you do not say so? How will your boss, even your coworker, know that you do not like something in your working conditions? Many times some problems are not immediately perceived by your superiors, and unwittingly still. You have to tell them, explain to them to improve your working conditions, that is, to be well and increase your productivity. They will appreciate it if you are a person who tries to deal with difficult situations. Simple and calm words, "I have noticed that… I want to do something about it."

Do not be aggressive.

When you want to ask for something, it is good not to go in an aggressive and critical mood. I have often been overwhelmed by emotion, so my anger, nerves, or criticism did not help much - we might say I was grumpy. When you are calm and relaxed, the other person will listen to you. Think about what you would do if you were asked for something with nerves… out of reaction and you alone would not listen.

No one was born ready to claim what they want. You have to work on it and work every day. What I believe is that sometimes you have to force yourself out of the comfort zone; there is no other way. Yes, maybe this is the first time you get into deep water. But, as with everything in our lives, you will not succeed if you do not persevere.

It is easy to blame others for not giving us what we want, but what do we do about it? The other will not care about you if you do not care about yourself.

Do not wait for everything to come ready for you; fight for yourself!

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