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Host Asks: Guest, please

“Is there any way I can get my guests to leave? The holiday season is right by the corner and every year I get frustrated since my -lovely by all means- guests are extremely reluctant to leave the house after dinner, celebrations, etc. and I end up tired, almost asleep on the couch waiting patiently for them to realize that it’s late. They need to leave. Like now. Any ideas?

The Gal Answers

Excellent question! Well, it depends on your boundaries, your relationship with your guests, and how much you are inclined to be unpleasant. What usually works is to start tidying up and moving around the house. Also, it’s a good idea to start a conversation on your next day’s plans and start by saying “oh, I have exciting plans for tomorrow, getting up veeeery early for [insert -imaginary or not-plan].

These methods are proven to be effective and guests with a sense of social awareness usually get the “go away” hint. Others, may not. So, you have two options: either you wait patiently for them to get tired and leave or you tell them that the party is over and it’s time to get some sleep.

If you are close to your guests, then they will be ok. Worst case scenario, they won’t coming back to the next gathering. But, at least, the party will be over on time!

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D. Asks: Holiday Stress

“Holiday season is here and I feel so stressed that I don’t know what to do. I have some days off work and I could really use the time to rest but I have so many social obligations and so little time to manage them all. What should I do?”

The Gal Answers

That’s a very common problem that pretty much everyone faces. We were taught to please them all, no matter if our mind (and body) say the opposite. I won’t tell you to not stress, but I will tell you that at the end of the day, nothing bad can happen if you don’t show up to a party or gathering. I tried doing it for a year and then I needed a couple of weeks off work to manage to recover. And that in my twenties. In my late thirties I would suggest Netflix favorites and RSVP to events that really warm your soul. Honestly, everyone is so duped these days that they won’t even notice your absence. All good.

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Money Maker: I don’t believe women make less money than men

“Hello Working Gals! I have a question-statement to make. I think that the belief that women make less money than men is a bit misleading. I believe that both sexes can earn the same amount of money if they have the appropriate skills and that we tend to victimize ourselves in order to have something to complain about.”

The Gal Answers

Well, that was not a question but I could really suggest you did some reading on the topic. A simple Google search will show you that “Although the gender pay gap has narrowed since the signing of the Equal Pay Act of 1963, women earned 82 cents for every dollar a man earns according to 2020 data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics.”

So yes, women do earn less than men. Why? The reasons are multiple and a simple column cannot explain how deep the gap in equal compensation is.

We have addressed the issue in The Working Gal and I would suggest you read some information here and here.

However, there are many places where you can see women earning more than men but these are not the rule nor magically we managed to bridge the gap of compensations only because some businesses took the lead.

The road is long and if you are in position where you earn more money from your male counterparts, then congratulations but you are the exception!

Demanding equal compensation schemes and addressing the issue is not victimizing ourselves. It’s trying to put us in a position where we are heard and we get what we deserve.

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Employee of the month Asks:

“I think my boss doesn’t like me. What should I do?

The Gal Answers

Not much but we need more clues to understand where your thought comes from. Has anything specific happened? Did you get a review that didn’t reflect your effort? A reminder that we don’t have to be friends with everyone at work and sometimes we need to just do our job and leave. Give us an update on what is happening.